Lunch Lady
Jack’s freaked out by the hot lunch at school.
He doesn’t eat the hot lunch– I pack him a lunch every day– but, nonetheless, it scares the heebies right out of him. I’ve tried to explain to him that there are some days he might want to get the hot lunch– the menu sometimes features pizza and grilled cheese sandwiches and cheeseburgers. But Jack is steadfast in his rather unreasonable fears.
He’s also convinced that there must be something wrong with the milk there.
Me: Jack– you know there’s cold, cold milk in the hot lunch line. If you want you can buy a milk at school…
Jack: No, Mommy! There’s only brown milk and red milk and blue milk. There isn’t white milk. I like white milk.
Me: Jack I’m positive that you can get regular white milk at school.
Jack: No, Mommy. (And he says this with his eyes closed and a sad, sad look on his face while shaking his head slowly.)
Today I got permission from the principal and the secretary to come and eat lunch with Jack. Jack was very excited. He thought this was a great idea. He couldn’t wait for school to start today so that it would “hurry up and be lunch time.” All morning he rushed me, “Mommy! Is it time to go to school yet?” Consequently, we arrived at school about 20 minutes early to be early. We ran up the road to the gas station and picked up treats to kill some time. Jack trotted right into school announcing to everyone we passed, “My Mommy packed me a lunch but she’s going to come and eat a hot lunch with me.”
I came back at his lunch time. Jack’s school does recess first– so the secretary invited me to go out and see Jack. I watched him for a while behind the door– I don’t get to see him that way very often. He looked like every other little boy on the playground– running and somewhat dissheveled and calling out to his friends. It’s good to see him like this. To know that he’s having a good time at school. That he’s making friends. That he’s not like the little boy in his class that has a perpetually tear-stained face from being separated from his mother. Jack spotted me and waved me over. There are about a dozen balls being kicked and thrown about by the boys (the girls seemed to be content with the sidewalk chalk and swings. Things haven’t changed). I greeted his little friends and made small talk with the kids in his class that I’ve met. When it was time to line up for lunch Jack and I got into the line towards the back. He held my hand and commentated the walk into the lunchroom.
At his table we sat across from each other. A little Indian girl sat next to me. She’s chatty. We met on Monday when I took treats into Jack’s class for his birthday. Her mother comes to school in beautiful saris. The little girl has a disappointingly American name. She showed me her pink Hello Kitty lunch box and her disappointingly American lunch– a prepackaged peanut butter and jelly sandwich. The kid next to Jack had a sandwich, a container of tuna salad, crackers, fruit, and cookies. Jack had a piece of pizza, strawberries, milk (in his thermos), some Apple Jacks, and a cookie (at least I’m honest).
I got into the line with the kids for the hot lunch. There’s a Purell station, too. The children liked that everything was new to me. They were full of information on what would happen next. I was the last one in line so by the time I got my lunch– grilled cheese, tomato soup, carrot and celery sticks, fruit salad, and milk– there was only about 10 minutes left to eat.
Jack looked suspiciously at my lunch.
Jack: Mommy! What is that? Is that bread?
Me: Jack– it’s a grilled cheese. Look. See?
Jack: Is that celery? and carrots?
Me: Yes. And this is fruit. And this is soup. And this is (chomp, chew) an amazing sandwich. Do you want a bite?
Jack shook his head: Will you open my cookies?
Me: No. Eat your pizza.
The kid on Jack’s right, left, and to my right and Indian Michelle parroted, “Jack! You can’t eat cookies first!”
(This was explaining the leftovers in his lunch some days…)
The lunch lady came out to ask, “How’s your lunch, Mom?” I thanked her– for the lunch and for taking such nice care of the children. She’s a nice lunch lady with a teeny, tiny kitchen. It’s just crazy, crazy small. And she seems like a very squishy, kind woman. A perfect lunch lady for small children. I told her my Mom was a lunch lady when I was small. She liked that. “I volunteered one day, back in when I was in junior high, to work in the cafeteria– who knew this is what I would be doing now!?”
Lunchtime flew by. I almost couldn’t finish my soup. It was a great lunch and, by the end of it, I’d almost convinced Jack that the blue milk was really just plain, regular milk. (The brown milk turned out to be chocolate and the red milk was strawberry flavored.) Jack gave me a big kiss before he left to get in line and his little buddy Alarik gave me a hug. I got a lot of high-fives, too.
I know that Jack won’t always think it’s neat for me to come to school and eat or work… so I’m soaking this up now while I can.
And I’m definitely going back on grilled cheese day.
